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Mine is an important word in the vocabulary of a typical
teenager. Children embrace the security that comes from the accumulation of possessions -
the more, the better.
Reasons for Materialism : |
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Television
Through the medium of television the children get increasing awareness of what's the
latest and the desires to have the same thing themselves |
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Peer
Pressure
As the children go to school they see their peer having different material goods. They
observe that the attention they receive due to those goods be it shoes, some fancy
stationery, latest gadget, etc. Each child desires to have these kind of possession. At
times, it could lead to a lot of materialistic competition. For e.g one friend saying to
another "I have the latest Nike with air cushions", "Oh I have the latest
digital camera". This is a very unhealthy competition |
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Home
Atmosphere
Kids vary strongly in their acquisitiveness depending on how strongly materialism is
emphasized at home. It cold be that the parents are all the time discussing money matter,
etc |
| How to get over this ? |
1. |
Set
good examples
Children are very good imitators. Be their role model by not stressing so much importance
to materialistic items |
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Occupy
them
Make them join various activities like skating, Piano classes, etc. so that they spend
their time constructively |
3. |
Value
Judgement Talks
Talk to them about the values one must inculcate of sharing, togetherness, etc. Teach your
child that you value an object not for its value but for its inherent quality or sentiment
value |
4. |
Turn
off the T.V
Television wields the greatest influence on children. Limit your child's exposure to T.V
especially the commercials and he'll be less likely to demand a lot of things |
5. |
Reward
him an occasion
Give him presents on birthdays, holidays, etc. Make him tell you what he requires and buy
it but gradually. Delay gratification. Make him learn to prioritize - for e.g These are
the four things I require a) Video game b) Pen set c) Toy d) Tennis Racket. Give him a
chance to get thinking of the item he requires the most |
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Spend
quality time
Make an effort to spend time together doing things that don't lose anything, playing a
game, etc. To feel less guilty, Parents who are so involved in their hectic work schedules
usually offer their children all the goodies |
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