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" Challenges can be stepping stones or
stumbling blocks, its just a matter of how you view them."
As you may have noticed before, your child may be very free and open in front of family
members or close friends, but does she hesitate in front of others or in public?
Is she scared to answer a question in class asked by the teacher infront of all her
classmates? |
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| All children suffer from the fear of failure. There are of
course some children who are more shy than others from birth itself because individual
differences exist in people. As your child grows up, talk to him, make him feel
responsible for his actions, make him open up, allow him to express his feelings and
emotions. As a parent, one must try to eradicate the word 'shy' from the personal
dictionary of the child about himself. To make your child bold and for her to be able to
address people outside in the world, encourage her to participate in activities others
than those at school. The activities could be swimming, athletics, art or dance classes
but must involve other children interacting with your own child. Give your child the
opportunity to select the activity of his or her choice. Also while sending your child for
these activities, it is advisable to go and drop her and fetch her. Do not linger around
the classes for too long or else your child gets too attached to you being there and will
not interact with other children. Interacting with others on a regular basis builds your
child's confidence. |
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| Competition to a certain extent is very healthy. Play small
games at home with your child. Sometimes let him win and sometimes loose. If your child
looses and pouts and cries for attention, don't give it to him. Try and inculcate the
right feeling in your child. Teach him to accept the spirit f winning at times as well as
losing at others. After a while, get other family members and friends occupied with these
games. Teach your child that at times it is also essential to be part of a team and work
as a team. |
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| As a parent, your most vital role is to encourage, support
and praise your child. Make her feel comfortable talking to you. Make her realize that she
can always come to you for anything, be it a homework problem or a fight with a friend, to
play a game with you or just to talk to you. If she has worked hard at anything be sure to
appreciate her efforts. All these activities and behavior from your part increases your
child's self image and boosts up the self-esteem. Make your child feel that you are proud
to have them there. |
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| If your child has a problem at school or with her friends,
ask her to come and freely express herself to you. Talk to her and ask her to freely
express her feelings to you and to replay the actual situation that took place. Sit with
your child and together think of solutions to the situation. Teach your child that at
times it maybe necessary to accept negative feedback. Be careful in explaining to your
child that they can't always get what they demand. Be right by their side to help them and
advise them. Lift them up when they fall and when they rise, help them to rise even
higher. Show them the positive side ahead of every situation they face. That itself will
act as an incentive and help them to achieve their goals. |
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