Two
schools of thought exist on this question. Parents
belonging to the old school of thought feel
that children should not be spoken about money,
spending etc as they do not want their children
to feel that money is scarce. Sometimes, parents
often feel that this is not an important enough
subject to spend time on and tend to ignore
it.
The
new school of thought believes that children
should be spoken & taught about money. We
advocate the same school of thought. Parents
must proactively discuss about money with children,
both formally & informally.
Children
learn about money from an early age through
observations & other actions. For eg: if
parents are discussing the idea of buying a
television and how they need to put together
a certain amount of money for the same, the
child will register involuntarily that unlimited
money is not available. To augment this involuntary
learning, parents can plan learning activities
in the day-to-day life of children. For eg:
be wise when giving gifts to your child. No
matter how wealthy you may be; exercise restraint
is fulfilling all desires of your child. Probably,
link gifts to an occasion- birthday; holiday,
academic or sports excellence. This will make
the child not only appreciate the gifts they
receives but also make them understand the value
of money.
The
concept of moderation & discipline can be
taught in ways more than one. For eg: if the
child is going to hostel, parents should sit
down and make the list of clothes, shoes, books
etc that are needed for the child. The child
must be made aware that the list is finite and
cannot increase based on impulsive likes in
the stores. Once key decisions are taken, children
should be given the flexibility of choosing
from the variety available.
Parents
tend to formally discuss money with children
when the child grows big enough to demand pocket
money. When parents talk to children about money,
they need to think like the child. When parents
are explaining why a certain amount of pocket
money will be given to the child, they also
need to explain to him/her why the amount cannot
be higher/ lower. And this needs to be explained
in a way that fits the child's life stage. For
eg: if your 7 year old son desires a monthly
pocket money of Rs. 500 while you believe that
the amount should be Rs.200, then you need to
logically & patiently explain why he should
spend only Rs.200. It is important to learn
to say 'no' to the child yet not impose ones
views unilaterally.
Most
often, our understanding of money is linked
to what we were taught as children, our family
values, beliefs & experiences. And hence
when we talk about money to our children, we
in a way transfer our values & belief systems
to them. For eg: if we have been taught that
we must save 25% of the total income, we instill
the same discipline in our kids when we give
them pocket money, however small the amount
may be!
Teaching
children about money has manifold repercussions: |